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Welcome new members Aug. 29th, 2008 @ 12:15 pm
We have some new members to this group, welcome! Please introduce yourselves and feel free to start new threads/discussions

hello? anybody? Sep. 3rd, 2007 @ 03:18 pm
There are new members joining this group, and members who have been here for some time, but in general there is silence. I have no problem leaving the group open, but I wonder why people asked for it if not to use it. So guys... hello? anyone out there?

Welcome! Jul. 4th, 2007 @ 03:53 pm
Welcome to lordlucien and any other new members I neglected to mention

Please introduce yourself  and make yourself at home!

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To tell or not to tell May. 30th, 2007 @ 10:01 am
You've been working with a group of people closely for some time and are developing friendships with them. None of them knew you before you looked like the man you are today. Do you tell them? How do you choose who to inform of your trans status and who not to?

Queer Film Festival Apr. 21st, 2007 @ 01:22 am
15th Annual Queer Film Festival May 4.5.6
Shows and Events
University of Oregon Campus


May 4
Friday 7:00pm
Hip-Hop: Beyond Beats & Rhymes

Portrayals of masculinity in hip-hop and rap often mimic stereotypes of aggressiveness, violence, sexism and homophobia.
Challenging these attitudes successfully necessitates an analysis of gender and its intersection with race and the promotion of new definitions of masculinity and femininity. This is the work for gender activists of all ages; this film and community campaign are vital tools in this effort.

Question for the group Sep. 22nd, 2006 @ 08:43 am
I have been in the process of job searching since the first of July. As I have mentioned in my intro to the group, I am stealth with regard to my FTM status. In prior job searches where I knew the "reference check" would be rarely completed, I never bother to fill out the "other names under which you were employed section," however now that I am looking for jobs of a higher professional caliber reference checks are pretty in depth, going back as far as ten years. I have been a bit stressed over how to handle the name change, which will obviously confuse an employer.

A little background on my neck of the woods, my city and both my county and neighboring county have gender identity written into their non-discrimination policies, so theoretically I am protected.

Beyond saying, "this sucks" about having to disclose, I am really looking to find out how others have handled this. My current method has been to simply put it on the application so that my butt is covered, but not directly address it. At the same time, I am NOT looking for the shock factor and wonder if I am, in effect, creating it.

Current Mood: curiouscurious

My Intro Sep. 21st, 2006 @ 03:32 pm
I am new to this group and wanted to take a moment to say hey! I'm really excited about this group. You see, I am primarily stelth with my FTM status. In truth, for me, being FTM is not a part of my identity, but rather a fact of my existance. I know this is not always a popular position, but this is my life and, therefore, popularity is not a concern.

Some other stats: I am 33, have been on T for a little over three years and live in Portland, OR. I have yet to have any surgical procedures due to being a recent graduate and now grad student, my finances have been focused elsewhere. I am also in a four year poly relationship.

So, I hope to learn a lot from all of you, as well as make some new friends.

FtM Spectrum Monthly Meeting in AZ? Jun. 23rd, 2006 @ 03:58 pm
Hey guys need your input: http://shhhon.livejournal.com/507706.html
Current Location: Phoenix, AZ
Current Mood: hopefulhopeful

coming out Jun. 11th, 2006 @ 03:52 am
I'm going home tomorrow - the very last flights of my round-the-world tour. It's time for me to go home and get my life back on track.

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SO, anyone got any good advice on dealing with telling your mother?

quick intro post Jun. 7th, 2006 @ 12:41 am
Hi everyone, my name is Sandy, and I'm very glad to have found this group.

I'm 44, I live in outer suburban Melbourne (Australia) and am just beginning to transition, which is both exciting and scary at the same time.

I've always felt that it was a either a mistake or a cosmic joke that I was born female, and I've spent most of the last 30 years trying to deny my feelings. Now I'm finally in a place where I've got my headspace together and can begin to make the transition without totally f*cking up anyone else's life - my kids are all grown up, I have no partner. And I'm about to go home after a 4 month holiday during which I did my best to sort out exactly how I felt about myself, and so here I am. I've been gradually moving from a feminine "shape" to a more masculine one, and dressing in a very gender-neutral/ambiguous fashion for much of the last 6-12 months. I've only told a very few people of my decision up till now, but so far everyone has been very supportive, which makes me feel a bit more confident.

My first really big hurdle is going to be telling my mother. My next big hurdle will be talking to my doctor.

I'm not sure what other information people might want to know, please feel free to ask me.

Oh, and I know my nick/username is still feminine. I've woven my internet persona (a dragon) so much into my real life over the last 16 or so years, it's going to take quite a bit of untangling, and I haven't decided yet what to do about it. Azhreia is the name of my domain, my email address, just about every place on the net that has a login, I use azhreia. If anyone has any good suggestions on how to proceed, I'd like to hear them. In many ways my nick is more my name than my (girl)name is. I've shortened it to Azh where possible, but as you guys know, it's not always easy.

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